Grandma and Grandpa: Why It’s So Different

By: Joni Boyd

Being a grandparent is more than just a title—it’s a journey full of love, wisdom, and plenty of playful moments.

But have you ever wondered how grandmothers and grandfathers might interact with their grandchildren in different ways?

Ian Barnett explores how these two distinct roles can enrich the grandparenting experience.

And while some traditional gender roles still play a part, the modern grandparent is more flexible and collaborative, according to Ian.

“It’s great that grandkids see Grandma and Grandpa still being affectionate… doing different things.”

Grandfathers often lean into physical activities with their grandkids— think wrestling or arm wrestling, which foster both emotional and physical connections. 

On the other hand, grandmothers may gravitate toward nurturing activities, like cooking or reading. 

“Grandmothers often come across as people who are actually going to be the nurturing, caring, sensitive…” Ian said and explains that while the roles may feel different, they are complementary, not restrictive.

What’s even more special, is when grandparents step outside their comfort zones to connect with their grandkids in new ways, Ian said.

What if grandfathers had a go at engaging in a nurturing activity, while grandmothers embraced something more active?

Whether grandfathers are getting involved with dolls or grandmothers are hitting a ball around the playground, these moments help break down stereotypes and create meaningful memories.

The digital world is also part of today’s grandparenting toolkit and is an easy way to engage with “their world”.

“[Technology] is their world – engage in their world, if you want to engage with them,” Ian said. 

This embrace of technology helps bridge generational gaps, allowing for richer, more diverse interactions.

By recognising and embracing the differences between grandmothers and grandfathers, grandparents can form deeper, more meaningful bonds with their grandchildren.